I saw an old post of mine and I remember telling this to my former teammate since she was talking about her love life, and how stupid she feels about it. I remember hearing her stories everyday, and even if it’s annoying already I understand her since that’s the least she can do so that the pain will go away.

I think I am making this post because I want to give a heads up to those people who are spending their Christmas alone. If you want to continue, read more at your own risk.

I told her these exact words, I don’t know where I got this but it suddenly kept overflowing and I think it is because it’s about time for her to know the reality of things.

“Love isn’t candy coated. It is something really miserable. Love isn’t perfect all the time. There’s no perfect guy, no perfect relationship. Perfection is just something we humans make to be able to feel satisfied, but then it ruins us more. It is not healthy anymore.”

Perfection isn’t the answer to all our desires, but reality. We need to accept the fact that there’s no perfect relationship, no perfect partner, no perfect love. In my opinion, I honestly think that perfection is just something we humans made up just for the sake of saying that our standards to be satisfied cannot be reached, and it will even give us a hard time coping up with things.

Now that I am in a relationship, I am just thankful for the simple things. For all the things God has given the two of us. Everyday gets better and even if it’s not perfect, it what suits us. I could take all the flaws in, and learn from it. I could take all the bad actions in, and do something good about it. I admit that we’re not perfect, but we show each other how it is to be appreciated just by accepting who you really are.

I have been reading a lot of heartbroken tweets, blog posts, facebook statuses, and I have been also been witnessing so much people breaking up. I don’t know why, and I also don’t want to meddle in their own issues. There’s a perfect time for everything, it may be cliche but we must really expect the unexpected, and never plan anything. Planning is bullshit! It will keep your hopes up, and it will keep you asking for more. Just live your life, and don’t live it for someone else. There’s always someone who will appreciate you, love you, for who you are. Someone who will try to communicate with you, keep up with you, and be as open to you. No need to hurry, no need to hurt, all you have to do now is smile and learn how to move forward. Moving on is bullshit, moving forward is the better solution!

I can say all these since I know, and I have felt your pain too. Been there, done that. I hope I am helping! :) Merry Christmas, and may you have a blessed and wonderful new year!